Who disciples? Col. 3:2 “Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth.
- The eternal minded that see the big picture
- Those that are personal and have a passion to walk with others
- People who love Jesus
- Lovingly reprove those you lead, and be are teachable
How to disciple? (Barnabas, Paul, Timothy)
- Talk about discipleship with people that are around you. What it has done in your life, helped you grow, challenged you, how important it is, how thankful you are, etc?
- Look for people that are hungry for accountability/discipleship and encourage them to think about the benefits of this type of relationship
- Make yourself available to establish the relationship, but give them the freedom to do it with someone else. Don’t take it personal if they decide to go with someone else…you should even help them find that ‘someone else’.
- Establish a time to meet –
∞ Find out what they are looking for
∞ Try to determine where they are spiritually
∞ Set a time of about 4-6 weeks
∞ Have them make goals of what they would like to accomplish
∞ Let them know you will evaluate those goals at the end of 4-6 weeks
∞ After first meeting let them know what you have planned
∞ Use time wisely
∞ Look to be influential in their life, not just hang out
∞ Make it personal
∞ Get involved in their life
∞ Pray for them
∞ Listen to them
∞ Challenge them, especially males. Give them books to read, scripture memory, challenge them to teach it to others, and application, cast vision for their life, and dream with them about all that God could do through us and with us. Teach them how to live for eternal things!
How to go through a book in the Bible together? (Good to purchase a study guide)
I recommend going through a book that you feel comfortable with, like one of Paul’s epistles in the New Testament. As a leader you need to find the who, what, when, where, why, and how’s of the book through commentaries.
- Have the person on their own read through the first chapter and re-write the chapter in their own words. It could be a lot or it could be a little. This is a great way to get them in the Bible and reading it on their own and it also teaches them to think about what they are reading and communicating those thoughts in their own words.
- Have them write down any questions they might have from that chapter.
- Also pick a verse for them to memorize in that chapter by next week. Pick a verse that is relevant or beneficial to their spiritual life, not just some random verse. This should be used as a challenge but not in such a way that they would avoid coming if they didn’t have the verse memorized.
- When you get together the next week have some questions for them about the chapter and allow for them to share what they wrote down, their questions, what stood out to them, what encouraged them, what confused them, what excited them, etc.
- As a leader, your main objective is to focus on some application from that chapter that week. It could be application from the verse memorized or application from another section in that chapter. Either way we want to talk about application. Think of how it applies to your life and if all else fails use some commentaries to make sure you’re on track, or ask me or someone else.
How to go through a chapter in a book together?
- Find a book that has impacted you or inspired you or that you have learned a great deal from and go through that book with them.
- Take a chapter a week and assign them to read a chapter of the book and as they read it go through and take notes on what they liked and what they didn’t like. Have them either write down their thoughts in the book or on some paper and come to the group next week prepared to talk about it.
- Also try to find a verse for the group to memorize together. One that is focused on in the chapter or one that is related to what you are reading.
- Come prepared to add to what the author has brought up. Don’t use the chapter as the main source, but merely as a spring board to jump off into other topics. You want them to leave thinking, “I am glad I didn’t just read this on my own!”