Today our culture is talking about really complicated subjects more than ever, and one of those subjects is sex, therefore, wouldn’t be awesome to grow in confidence and boldness around any subject in our culture today, especially in the subject of sex?

Imagine becoming the type of people that men and women pursued at the office and the playground for gentleness and wisdom, not only around sex, but in all areas of life?

Genesis 2:18, “18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.”

• In Genesis 1 we see a macro view of creation, male and female He created them in His image, and in Genesis 2 we see the God of Scripture zero in on His prized creation, humanity, and we see the foundation for marriage when it says, “It is not good for man to be alone.”
• When you see the phrase, “It is not good for man to be alone” it should jump off the page, because Adam isn’t alone. Adam is walking with the God of Scripture in the cool of the garden in perfect union.
• It is in Genesis 3 we see sin enter into creation and destroy everything God created to be good, but in Genesis 2 everything is perfect, and yet we still see the phrase, “It is not good for man to be alone.”
• Do you know why? It is because the God of Scripture created marriage to be a gift. It is because the God of Scripture created man and woman to come together under the commitment of marriage, and He created marriage to be good.

Therefore, in verse 18 the Lord God said, “It is not good for man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.”  When you see the word “Suitable” in verse 18 it means “one who is ‘according to the opposite’ of Adam.”

Remember, Adam has been hanging out with creation naming aardvarks and antelope’s saying, “Different, not like me, different, not like me, different” and then he’s going to see woman in verse 23 and say, “Bingo!”

She’s like me! She’s similar to me, she’s just not as hairy. She’s opposite, but suitable, so as to compliment. She is verse 23, bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh, and in Genesis 2 the God of Scripture is bringing man and woman together in the glorious gift of marriage.

• The role of a wife being described as the “HELPER” in the original language has a connotation of military reinforcements. Write that in your notes, “The word HELPER in the original language has a connotation of military enforcements.”

• The word, “HELPER” in the original language has a connotation of power. The word, “HELPER” in the original language has a connotation of an army battalion under attack, and the It is as if the God of Scripture says, “Oh, snap, send in the HELPER!”
• Did you know the title of “Helper” is the same title Jesus gives to the Holy Spirit, the third person of the trinity, co-equal with the Father, and the Son, as our “HELPER”?
• Did you know HELPER is the same word used of God as our “Helper” in Psalm 54. Did you know HELPER is used 16 times in the Old Testament of God as our HELPER? How come the professor’s at the university never tell us that?

Genesis 2:19-20, “19 Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the sky, and brought them to the man to see what he would call them; and whatever the man called a living creature, that was its name. 20 The man gave names to all the cattle, and to the birds of the sky, and to every beast of the field, but for Adam there was not found a helper suitable for him.”

• In verse 19 you see Adam given responsibility to name the animals, and throughout Genesis 2 we see the husband given responsibility to care for the garden, cultivate the garden, and the God of Scripture speaking directly to Adam, so that in Genesis 2 you see the wife is given the role in marriage of “HELPER” and the husband is given the role in marriage of “LEADER.”
• It is possible we can hear this language of HELPER and LEADER in marriage, and conclude, “I guess Genesis 2 is teaching some 1950’s version of a wife who just cooks and cleans?” That is not what Scripture is teaching at all.
• It is possible you think, “I guess the husband gets to always do what he wants.” No, wives don’t follow your husband into sin. All of the husbands authority as leader is ultimately under the leadership of Jesus, so that the husbands leadership must align with Jesus’ leadership.

Yes, in our church family we want healthy marriages, thriving marriages, joy filled marriages, and we want to share with others about the glorious gift of marriage but the primary purpose for our church family is to know Jesus.

We must begin with Jesus. It is out of our relationship with Jesus that we will learn what it means to be Helper in marriage and a Leader in marriage, but we must begin with Jesus.

We are all sinners. We are all going to fail. We are all going to forget. We are going to fall asleep while the other is sharing the most important parts of their day, but there is One who never sleeps and never slumbers. His name is Jesus.

It is Jesus who is the ultimate leader in our marriage. It is Jesus who is the ultimate helper in our marriage. It is Jesus who makes it clear that marriage isn’t the prize, but Jesus is the prize, and it is Jesus who understands us, gets us, and pursues us greater than any spouse, but it must begin with Jesus.