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Why Do We Need to Be in Control? (Part 6)

There is something strange about how much time human beings spend trying to control things we can’t control. We plan our schedules throughout the year with the expectation that our lives should go accordingly. In fact, there are more apps and devices for every part of our life, so that most of life can just become a continuous pattern of events by just pressing GO!

None of those things are necessarily bad. Planning is a good part of life. But have you noticed how quickly planning can turn into worrying? We create a plan and then we start to worry if our plan is going to work! And sometimes, even after we’ve done everything we can possibly do, we still can’t relax. 

WE WEREN’T CREATED TO BE GOD

The opening chapters of Genesis describe humanity living in God’s good creation. Adam and Eve have meaningful work and responsibilities to care for creation. It’s a pretty good plan! But there is one important distinction. They are responsible for the garden, but they aren’t in control. It is only the Lord who is in control. It is the Lord who defines what is good, provides what they need, and invites them to enjoy His creation under His control.

But then Genesis 3 happens. The serpent approaches Eve and begins questioning God’s instructions. He suggests that God is withholding something good from them. And then he makes an extraordinary promise by suggesting, “You can be like God, knowing good and evil.” Think about that.

Adam and Eve already live in paradise, and everything they need. But apparently, being perfection isn’t enough. They want to be like God. They want the authority to determine good and evil for themselves rather than trusting the One who created them. And humanity has been struggling with that temptation ever since.

WE STILL WANT TO BE GOD

Obviously, most of us don’t walk around telling people that we want to be God. That would make Thanksgiving a little uncomfortable. But think about how often we act as though everything depends on us.

We even want to be in control and when things don’t go according to plan, we get frustrated. Sometimes we lie awake at three in the morning trying to solve a problem that we couldn’t solve at three in the afternoon. Why?

It’s because somewhere along the way, we started believing that if we could just think hard enough, plan carefully enough, or work diligently enough, we could make everything turn out the way we wanted. And yet, no matter how hard we try, something always reminds us that we’re not in control and when it becomes obvious it is usually devastating. It is that call from the doctor or that text from one of our children. It can drop us to our knees, because we never saw it coming.

Even as a follower of Jesus, we can do everything right and still experience an outcome we never wanted, because at the end of the day we don’t have ultimate control. And that realization can be terrifying.

AND THEN JESUS SHOWS UP

Isn’t it interesting that when Jesus teaches His followers about anxiety, He doesn’t begin by giving them a better planning system? In Matthew 6, Jesus talks about some of the very things people spend their lives worrying about. And then He points to the birds.

Birds don’t plant crops, harvest fields, or store food in barns, and yet God feeds them. Then Jesus points to the flowers. They don’t work or make clothing, and yet God clothes them with extraordinary beauty. And Jesus asks a remarkable question, “Are you not worth much more than they?” Yikes!

Humanity has been trying to take God’s place since Genesis 3. And Jesus comes along and reminds us that we already have a Father who knows what we need. He isn’t telling us to stop working, planning, or being responsible. Birds still gather food. And throughout Scripture, wisdom and diligence are celebrated.

But Jesus is confronting the belief that everything depends on us. He says, “Your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things.” And then, “So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for itself.”

Jesus doesn’t promise that tomorrow will be easy. He doesn’t promise that we’ll never experience loss, disappointment, or uncertainty. Instead, He invites us to trust the Father who already knows what tomorrow holds.

After all, Jesus didn’t come simply to forgive us for trying to be God. He came to bring us back into a relationship with the Father, so we can finally know the joy of being in relationship with the One who is in control of all things.

Breaking the Myth of Perfect Parenting

My wife and I have worked in pastoral ministry for over 20-years.  My wife has worked in personal counseling as a Licensed Professional Counselor for 10 of those years.  A common theme in parenting we have noticed is that the pressure of parenting is at an all time high. That’s why I am so excited to read the book, “The Myth of Good Christian Parenting” by Burt and McGinnis coming out in October 2025.

If you’ve been a Christian parent for more than a week, you’ve probably felt the subtle (or not-so-subtle) pressure that if you “do it right,” your kids will turn out to be your definition of perfect little saints.

The Myth of Good Christian Parenting confronts that pressure head-on. The central premise is simple but liberating: There is no magic formula for raising “perfect” Christian kids. You can pray with them, take them to church, memorize Scripture together, and still, they may choose their own path, sometimes far from God.

That’s not a sign you failed. It’s a reminder that parenting is about faithfulness, not control. God calls us to be stewards, not puppet-masters.

Why This Matters:

As a pastor in Austin for 15 years, I’ve sat across from countless parents in my office who were quietly drowning in shame. Their adult child wasn’t walking with Jesus, and they thought it was entirely their fault. This book helps dismantle that lie.

It offers a theological reset:

  • God is the perfect Father—and even His kids rebelled.
  • Your calling is obedience, not outcome.
  • The Holy Spirit does the transforming work, not your parenting techniques.

Caution:

It’s possible someone could read this book and it could evoke bitterness or anger at people or resources who painted a picture of “follow these steps” with “guaranteed results.” But I would caution the reader to tread lightly in this area.

  1. Every parent I have ever met tends to have rose-tinted glasses toward their children. Parents tend to hear what parents want to hear about any resource. The allure of finding the “secret” to parenting is a strong temptation to anyone because we love our children so much and we find great comfort in thinking our approach toward parenting is going to “work.”
  2. Parents also tend to be reactionary. I have found, in my life and others, the majority of parental motivation is “giving our children what we didn’t receive.” It’s an admirable goal. The only problem, the hearts and mind of our children might have completely different needs than us!
  3. Parenting styles aren’t cookie-cutter. What worked for one family might not work for another family. What worked for one child, might be the worst thing for another child. It doesn’t mean parenting is doomed to fail, but it does mean we should layer our attitude toward parenting with more generosity.
  4. Wallow in forgiveness. Instead of wallowing in bitterness, extend forgiveness. Instead of pointing the finger, remember there’s no perfect solution other than Christ! Instead of storing up wrath, remember the Lord gave us the exact parent, child and resources at the time for our good and His glory!
  5. Be careful not to get too excited or too discouraged about parenting. That child or parent might be doing “great” right now or “struggling” right now but in 10-years or 20-years, it might look completely different. I have seen people’s lives change for the glory of Jesus in moments, and I have seen people walk away from Jesus after decades of getting everything they wanted. Our hope is that when we are in Christ, one day we will be raised in glory. Everything else is just ups and downs for a “little while.”
  6. Be on guard against giving up as a parent. The attitude of a parent saying “I don’t want to influence my children” might feel warm and cozy, but it is a cop out. Everything and everyone in the world is trying to engage our children, why not the people who love them the most. This doesn’t mean a parent should try to control their children, but they should definitely step into their role as a parent and try to intentionally speak into their life.
  7. The majority of children are going to get punched in the face with their failures and flaws as they enter into adulthood. The easiest thing for them to do is point the finger at parents, because it feels like, “If they would have done this, I wouldn’t struggle with that.” It can be my parents were too involved, I felt smothered. But it can also be my parents weren’t involved, I felt like they didn’t care. Life is hard. The only perfect place to point our heart and the hearts of our children is Jesus.
  8. Take heart! If you are parenting little ones today, there is likely a challenge coming for our children that we aren’t even aware of as parents. We have no idea what it is like to be those children. We have no idea what it is like to interpret the information they are receiving. How could any parent perfectly speak into the hearts and minds of children 10-years into the future? Therefore, our only hope is that Jesus will speak into our heart and the hearts of our children! Let’s turn our hearts and minds to rest in Him!

If you found any of this helpful, I wrote a quick encouragement in a previous post “Essential Truths for Struggling Parents.” Read through it as you have time! Other than that, remember that children and parents are just people.

Country Classics

On the drive to Dallas this morning I was listening to a little Don Williams because who doesn’t love Don Williams? It was one of his classics, “I Believe In Love.” The kids love it! Not really, but there is only so much children’s music you can listen to and I like to think when they grow up they will be able to say, “I liked listening to Don Williams with my dad in the car.” Doesn’t that sound like a fun memory?

Anyways, as we were jamming out to country classics like Kenny Rogers, Dolly Parton, Hank Williams, one of my favorites came on with a little country twang and I noticed one of his lyrics:

Well, I don’t believe that heaven waits,
For only those who congregate.
I like to think of God as love:
He’s down below, He’s up above.
He’s watching people everywhere.
He knows who does and doesn’t care.
And I’m an ordinary man,
Sometimes I wonder who I am.

And I believe in love…it’s a classic. As we drove down the interstate singing as loud as we can in the car with the family I thought Williams articulated a perception of God and eternity that many have in our culture today. He recognizes the disconnection of heaven being only for those who attend church. It doesn’t sit well with him and I can imagine as he wrote the lyrics he must have wrestled with a type of God that is partial to only those who gather on the hours of 10-11am on Sunday. Seems a little short sighted on God’s part, huh?

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Meeting Jesus

We live in Texas and if you grow up in Texas or live here long enough there are two things that happen: First, you become a big fan of Texas. Not necessarily the “Lone Star State” guy who puts stars up all over his house, but when you are surrounded by states like Oklahoma, Arkansas, Louisiana, and New Mexico it just leads to arrogance. After all we do have paved roads.

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Happy Easter Pt. 2

As we approach this celebration there are two theological positions for us to reflect on:

Resurrection:  His resurrection is equally important and without the resurrection our eternal state is still encased in sin.  The penalty of sin has been satisfied through the cross but it is His resurrection that overcomes sin.  Scriptures teaches the wages of sin is death, but Jesus overcomes death, and as a result overcomes sin.  I was reading recently that few in the ancient world believed in the resurrection and although it is familiar to us, Christianity was born into a world where its central claim was known to be false.  

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Happy Easter Pt. 1

As we approach the Easter Weekend there are two theological positions for us to reflect on:

Death:  His death is significant because it was through His death that God’s wrath toward sin is totally satisfied.  This goes all the way back to Genesis 2 when God speaks to Adam and tells him if he eats from the tree he shall surely die.  It is at the point of Adam’s disobedience that sin enters into human history and distorts all of creation and separates all of humanity from creator.  A Holy God has been offended.  

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