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How Do You Build a Successful Life?

How many times have you been driving down a bumpy road and thought your car was about to fall apart? Sometimes the car hits one of those bumps and you feel the frame of the car slam into the wheels and you are convinced your car is about to fall apart! In those moments you need good shocks that can absorb the bumps of the road.

In the same way, life can be like those bumpy roads. It can be a call from a doctor, an argument with your spouse, a meeting with your supervisor, a late night of waiting for that teenager to send in an update about where they are; life can get really bumpy.

How are we supposed to enjoy life if there are so many bumps in the road? Are we supposed to move out into the middle of nowhere? Wait! There’s tons of bumps in the road in the middle of nowhere 🙂

Sometimes a person can become so fatigued by the challenges of life they try to reduce the amount of possibilities. We cut off friends. We break off relationships. We build a fortress of solitude around ourselves and still challenges in life will break in and create some bumps. What do we do?

The universities don’t teach how to absorb those challenges. Our careers might give us some coping skills but even our careers won’t help us when it feels like the world is being pulled out from under our feet. Copy and paste these somewhere to help you remember:

1. Do you believe God Is Sovereign? The word “Sovereign” means “Control.” Do you believe God is in control of all things? Do you believe God is with you always? What was Joseph believing when he was being betrayed by His brothers? What did Jacob believe when he was working for a wicked uncle? What was David believing when he was hiding in a cave after being anointed to be king? What did Paul cling to when he was in prison, shipwrecked, beaten, bitten by snakes and left to die? What did Jesus hold on to when the Father’s will was for Him to be spit upon, beaten and put on a cross? It is the follower of Jesus who goes through the ups and downs of life but you keep trusting your Heavenly Father because He is in control. (Romans 8)

2. Is your ultimate hope growing in God’s glory? The Apostle Paul wrote, “The sufferings of this world are not worthy to be compared to the glory that is to be revealed.” James teaches us to consider the sufferings of our day to be joy in light of God’s glory. Do you glory in His glory? Do you believe if the Lord only brought you hardship and pain in this life, He is still worthy to be praised? Do you believe the words of Habakkuk, “Thou there be not fruit on the vine, nor food in the stall, I will exalt you!” Do you believe what this world has to offer is not the best this life has to offer? When you turn your trust to His glory it will carry through any pain this world has to offer.

3. Are you celebrating God’s goodness in your life today? Right now! You woke up this morning. You just took a breath. You have people in your life. You have talents and gifts. You have challenges to persevere! And most of all, through faith in Jesus, He calls you His for eternity! You might not make it to tomorrow. You might not make it home today! Therefore, rejoice in the Lord today! Write down His blessings in your life. Recount them every day. Tell Him of all His goodness. Hug the people around you. Write a note of encouragement. Send that text. Laugh with those people. Enjoy the work of your hands. Why worry about tomorrow? Instead, enjoy more today!

4. Are you putting yourself in a place to be captivated by His presence? The glory of the Lord is around you at all times. He hears our prayers. He intercedes on our behalf. He speaks encouragement into our soul. He is our helper. He is our comforter. In every storm of life, He is there, He is working and He is good.

Wind and waves come in life but there is only one who rebukes the wind and the waves. He was there with Moses. He was there with Joseph. He was with David. He was next to Esther in those moments when she uttered those timeless words, “For such a time as this.” But you need shocks to make it in this life.

What About Masturbation?

I am not necessarily looking to talk about a subject that is uncomfortable for everyone but an older man once said to me, “In the absence of saying nothing, people fill in their own answers.”

There was a season of life where I thought, “We don’t need to talk about this subject in mass communication do we?” Sure, we can talk about it at a Men’s Group here and there but not to the congregation at large, right? But in the absence of saying nothing, people fill in their own answers and that truth is more applicable today than ever.

First, let’s make sure we are all on the same page. Masturbation is the experience of sexual orgasm produced by self-stimulation. Virtually every man and woman has tried it in some capacity.

Second, this is a blog that we try to keep concise. Please don’t look at this article as the beginning and end of the conversation. Please search the Scriptures, wrestle with this subject and seek godly counsel in the process.

Third, the Bible doesn’t mention masturbation or self-gratification specifically. There are passages that some will reference like Genesis 38 and “spilling of the seed.” However, the sin of Onan is because he refuses to provide an heir for his deceased brother, not masturbation.

Another passage is Matthew 5 when Jesus speaks of cutting off your right hand if it causes you to sin. While there is a connection between lustful thoughts and masturbation, it isn’t likely Jesus had masturbation in mind specifically, therefore, there isn’t necessarily a specific verse for us to reference.

Fourth, we do know God created sex to be good. In Genesis 1-2 we see Adam and Eve were naked, unashamed and called by God to be fruitful and multiply to His glory. Our sexual desires were created to be good and glorifying to God.

However, in Genesis 3 our sin completely distorts what God created to be good but Jesus has come to reconcile us to God through faith and restore a biblical view of sex, which is designed by God to take place within the commitment of marriage between a man and a woman.

Therefore, how do we live in that restoration today? How do we experience healing in this area of our life? What does that healing look like practically? Here are some thoughts to consider:

What do we do with all those sexual desires? Sometimes we just think God created our arms, legs, head, torso and our genitals appeared there by accident. But God created our body parts to do what they do and feel what they feel, therefore, we must be asking, “How do we steward these sexual desires for His glory?”
What about pornography? The biggest challenge with masturbation is it is often associated with pornography. Any time we are dabbling in any type of sexual immorality we are wondering outside of God’s design of sex. 10-years ago people outside of Christ would have gloried in pornography but today, even people outside of Christ recognize the dangers of pornography.
Will the desire for masturbation go away when we are married? Although marriage is a gift, the gift of marriage won’t remove the temptation of masturbation because our sexual desires are ultimately desires for intimacy at the deepest part of our soul. Therefore, when our thoughts are wandering toward masturbation it might be because we are lonely, stressed, overwhelmed and masturbation might seem like a quick way to gratify those needs but ultimately, in those moments, our soul is longing for intimacy with our Creator and it would be better to see these desires as reminders that our soul is longing for something more.
If I am married, should I talk to my spouse about these desires? 1 Corinthians 7 teaches us that a wife doesn’t have the right over her body but her husband and her husband doesn’t have the right over his body but his wife, therefore, in marriage, masturbation is a conversation that would be great to take place between husband and wife and not something we want to keep in secret.
Isn’t this just a personal decision? Sometimes we might tell ourselves, “Well, I will just meet this sexual desire quickly, so I don’t get entangled in other desires.” Giving ourselves over to one fleshly desire isn’t the way to overcome other fleshly desires. Perhaps it would be better to confess those desires to Jesus and ask for His help? Perhaps Jesus can meet us in those desires in ways we could never imagine?
What if pornography and lust isn’t involved? It’s possible. But I am not sure God’s Word gives us a wide open door here. In that process we are still training our flesh. We are training our bodies to experience immediate gratification. There are chemicals being released in those moments and those chemicals create attachment, therefore, we want to be mindful that we aren’t simply giving ourselves over to our desires.
Is masturbation disgusting? It’s possible you have heard this subject discussed in a tone of the “worst thing possible.” Any desire to overcome the desires of the flesh should be seen equally. Our hope is that Jesus has come to cleanse us of our sin, we are indwelled by the Holy Spirit and empowered by the Spirit to live godly lives in Him.
What if masturbation is a pattern in my life that is out of control? The first step is to invite Jesus into this conversation through confession, repentance and forgiveness. In addition, it would be good to invite a friend or two into this conversation as well. 1 John teaches us to bring our offenses into the light so that we might find healing. Start there!
What about past memories that keep popping into our minds? Jesus has come to make us new. We aren’t made clean in Christ because we are physically or sexually pure. We are made clean through faith in Jesus. We are given new eyes, new minds, new thoughts. Ask Jesus to renew your mind in this area of life and remove those memories.
Are there any resources to consider? There are some great resources to consider. It’s possible you might feel overwhelmed and need immediate support. Please reach out to someone for help or contact one of these organizations. (1.) https://puredesire.org/ (2.) https://samsonsociety.com/ (3.) https://www.bebroken.org/

If you feel out of control in this area, you’re not alone. We live in a sexualized culture that can seek out any thought with a touch of a button. Our hope isn’t to physically overcome these desires on our own. Our hope is to find the greatest intimacy we could ever imagine in Christ.

Therefore, rejoice, the Spirit is already at work as you consider these things. Next, invite Jesus into this conversation. And then consider reaching out to a friend for encouragement as you explore, “What’s shaping your thoughts? What’s feeding your desires? How might you respond to these challenges in life in a different way?”

Are you becoming a dangerous leader or a biblically dangerous leader?

There are some leaders who want all the attention, overlook the needs of others, not really interested in the glory of God but love the idea of titles, making decisions and everyone respecting them. It’s the difference between a dangerous leader and a biblically dangerous leader for God’s glory!

Malachi 1:6, “‘A son honors his father, and a servant his master. Then if I am a father, where is My honor? And if I am a master, where is My respect?’ says the Lord of hosts to you, O priests who despise My name. But you say, ‘How have we despised Your name?’”

In the book of Malachi the people of Malachi’s day are living through a difficult season. Their morale is low, their souls are depleted, they have lost optimism in the Lord, and their worship in the Lord is waning so much that He brings rebuke in chapter 1 to their spiritual leaders.

Up to this point the people of Israel have grown up hearing great things about the Lord through leaders like Abraham, Moses, David, Sampson, but lately the stories haven’t been that great.

Lately they have heard about the Assyrians, a wicked people who take the 10 tribes to the north into captivity. Then, Babylon, another wicked people who take the 2 tribes to the south into captivity. Then, Persians, another ungodly people who take out the Babylonians and issue a decree allowing Israel to return home, which is great, but Israel is having to start all over.

They are having to rebuild their homes, restart their economy, re-establish their community, and they are still living under the oppression of the Persian government, so that their awe and worship of God is waning and it is trickling down into their relationships with one another. But, there is HOPE.

In Malachi 3 the Lord reminds them of His unending love, therefore, we are called to give our lives completely to Him, and when we give our lives to the Lord we will become a biblically dangerous leader for His glory. Here are 11 practical characteristics:

Make a pact with God to meet with Him daily. The Lord is worthy of our lives, therefore, we give ourselves to Him every day through the reading of His Word and prayer.
- When you read the bible ask these questions, “What does the passage teach me about the character of God? What does the passage teach me about the brokenness of humanity? How does the passage expose our need for Jesus?”
- When you pray add these elements into prayer:
  - Adoration: Awe of God.
  - Submission: Submit to His will.
  - Trust: Ask for His help to trust Him.
  - Confession: Confess areas of sin.
  - Protection: Ask for help to be on guard against the evil one.
Develop an excitement for His kingdom, rather than your kingdom. Our kingdoms are small, short-sighted, and filled with anxiety. His Kingdom is eternal, diverse, and filled with power and joy. Seek His kingdom!
Persistent growth in personal character rather than building your reputation. Confess sin daily. Uproot idols with the gospel daily. Build godly relationships with other men and women who are wanting to grow in godliness. Read God’s Word. Stop making excuses. Take responsibility. Grow in character!
Expect life to bring challenges. Life is difficult. Build your life in preparation for that difficulty. Roll with the punches. Tons of people can get excited for a season, but length of time is what makes you dangerous.
Raise up others to be a biblically dangerous leader. Pour into people. Resist the temptation of just being satisfied with people hearing what you have to say about life. Pour into people who will pour into people.
Love repentance. Love confessing sin. Love being in awe of the cross. This is what makes you the most dangerous, because you can’t believe that God would love someone who is layered in as much death and destruction as you are in life.
Rejoice in God’s grace in the life of others. Don’t give into a competitive attitude with others. Run your own race. You aren’t trying to beat out the guy next to you. You are learning about your gifts and talents that the Lord has uniquely given to you and you are doubling down on those gifts and talents. It is easy to become critical of others but instead it would be better to be known for being an encourager of others.
Celebrate little things. Life is hard. There are going to be tons of misses. If we are going to aim for becoming a biblically dangerous leader then we are going to run hard and the best medicine for running hard is celebrating little things.
Love rest. The Sabbath is ultimately in the cross, but a biblically dangerous leader loves the idea of everything not resting on your shoulders. You know how to turn it off. You know how to nap. You know how to walk with peace. You know how to be still and know that the Lord is the Lord.
Don’t get swept up in the latest fads. The cross is the coolest thing ever. A new pastor, a new book, a new -ism, a new-est is just going to come and go, but you are always going to be in awe of the cross.

Value people. Do you care about people? All people are made in God’s image, therefore, a biblically dangerous leader cares about people. You care about how you build relationships with people. You are curious about their story. You don’t people walking away from their time with you thinking about YOUR GLORY but instead you want people to walk away and think, “I want to go read the Bible, I want to share the gospel, I want to be a better spouse. I want to know GOD’S GLORY!”

Spiritual Fitness: 2024

New year, new you! It seems like every place we look, someone or something is trying to help us prepare for the new year. Why is that? It’s not like 2023 was inherently evil and 2024 is going to provide a new outlook on life.

But a new year does provide an opportunity for reflection. The season is slowing down. Weather is cooler. Nights come earlier. It’s like all of creation is getting tucked in for bed and in the same way there are some benefits for reflecting on the care of our mind, body and soul.

Our church family provides a resource called Yearly Rhythms, which you can get for free on a Sunday morning at our resource table or you can order your own on Amazon. There are tons of resources for us to learn how to care for our bodies. This particular writing will focus on how we care for our soul.

Last summer our family was returning from our trip to South Padre Island. It’s the nicest beach in Texas, so we try to go every year. On our return home we realized we were short on gas and my wife said, “We can get gas at this exit.” But the gas station was on the other side of the highway and I didn’t want to waste ALL that time going to the other side of the highway, so I said, “We will just wait for the next exit.”

Little did I know, the next exit for gas was 40 miles away! Unfortunately we noticed this about 10 miles into our journey and my wife said, “We better turn around and go back to that gas station.” But I have this unusual gift where I find it almost impossible to turn around for anything, so I said to my family, “I bet we can make it!”

Everyone in the car sighed in disbelief. At this point I could tell my wife was irritated but I thought the worst case is that I will have to walk to the gas station, so I confidently told everyone, “Don’t worry. Everything will be fine.”

10 miles later into the trip, half-way there, we saw the Border CheckPoint so we all said to ourselves, “Great, we can get gas from them.” Unfortunately, the Border Patrol is familiar with these types of questions and they quickly said, “No, we don’t have gas but here’s a list of companies that will bring you gas.”

At this point the fuel gauge is beyond E. It’s not on the E. It’s fully on the other side of the E. I begin to admit defeat. I tell my family we will stop driving, leave enough gas for the AC to stay on and I will call a company to bring us gas.

But to my surprise, when we called the company to bring gas, which is a $50 fee just to transport the gas, the person asked, “What kind of car?” We told him and he said those little cars can go forever! We asked in disbelief, “Are you sure?” The gauge is beyond the E. He said, “Just keep driving. You will make it!”

Sure enough, we made it to the gas station. Of course, I turned to my family and said, “See, what were yall worried about?” Nobody thought it was funny.

I share this story because sometimes we can treat our spiritual soul like I treated our gas tank on that day. Every day, throughout the day, we have opportunities to feed our spiritual soul but many times we say to ourselves, “I will be fine! Just keep going.” This is what leads me to a few encouragements:

If we have never trust in Jesus’ life, death, and resurrection, we need to start there. It is our faith in Jesus that gives us a spiritual tank to fill up!
Next, Jesus calls us to fill up our spiritual tanks every day, throughout the day. Jesus calls it being a disciple. Jesus has this conversation with Peter when Jesus goes to wash their feet. At first Peter protests, “You could never wash my feet” because Peter thought this would be too humiliating. But Jesus’ response is, “Peter, you have already been made clean. You just need to be washed.” Filling up our spiritual soul is like a good washing!
Time in Scripture. It can be a verse a day. It can be a passage or a chapter. It can be a quick reading or a deep study but the key is to ask ourselves these three questions:
- What does the Scripture teach me about God’s character?
- What does the Scripture teach me about humanities character?
- How does Jesus bring us rescue?
Prayer. In the same way, prayers can be long, short, silent, written; it doesn’t matter. On January 21, 2024 our church family taught through the Lord’s prayer and made these observations to include in our prayers:
- Adoration
- Submission
- Trust
- Confession
- Protection.
Gospel. Our time in God’s Word and prayer should lead us to a place of repentance. Repentance means to turn from sin and turn to Jesus. Repentance softens our heart for God. Repentance reminds us of the glory of God. Repentance shouldn’t fill us with shame and sorrow but joy and hope.
Rest. The bible calls it Sabbath but our faith in Jesus gives us an eternal Sabbath, so that our rest can take place in many shapes and sizes besides one day of the week. But we should still look to incorporate times in our week when we remind ourselves, “God is my provider and protector!”
Giving. Giving financially is a way to remind our soul that we are not the provider and protector. Our country provides opportunities for comfort and prosperity, so that it is easy to feel like we are the ones providing and protecting, therefore, giving is a tangible act of worship, so as to say, “This dollar is not my savior!” You can give in a lot of different ways but if you Partner with North Village Church then you can see how to give HERE.
Serving. God’s Word calls us to look not only after our own interests but also the interests of others, therefore, where in your week are you serving someone else that doesn’t benefit your own interests? I have found that I enter into those moments kicking and screaming. I tell myself, “I don’t have time, I don’t have energy” and yet every time afterwards I think to myself, “I am so glad I did that!”
Sunday Worship. Are you connected to a church family? A church family provides a spiritual covering of protection. I can’t imagine going throughout the day or week all alone. We all need to be committed to a church family.
Fellowship. Our culture is increasingly moving toward an isolated culture. We can pick what we want to eat, what we want to watch, what we want to listen to and curl up in our bed and never have to be around other people. At first glance, it sounds awesome but over time I have found that we will become bored and depressed when we are just focusing on our interests. We need the flavor of other people!

I have found when I am incorporating these spiritual disciplines into my life it leads me to a spiritual tank that is full. It doesn’t mean I won’t have any problems in life. I still have all kinds of problems but it does mean I can weather those problems more securely. My roots in Christ are deeper. My foundation is more solid. My support is more deep. My emotional maturity is more grounded. My thoughts are more clear.

It doesn’t mean layers of anxiety, fear, and discouragement never come my way but it means I can spot them sooner and the truth of God’s Word shapes how I respond to them when I see them coming.

Why Do We Sing the Song “Joy to the World?”

Joy to the world, the Savior reigns, let men their songs employ, while fields and floods, rocks, hills and plains, repeat the sounding joy, repeat the sounding joy, repeat, repeat the sounding joy

He rules the world with truth and grace, and makes the nations prove, the glories of His righteousness, and wonders of His love, and wonders of His love, and wonders and wonders of His, His love 

“Joy to the World” was written by Isaac Watts who was born in 1674 in Southampton, England. He wrote over 750 hymns including, “When I Survey the Wondrous Cross, This is the Day the Lord Has Made, and Sin Has a Thousand Treacherous Arts.”

Watts was actually bleeding edge in his time. As a teenager he would always complain about the music and the lack of participation from the people. So, his father challenged him to do something. The following week he wrote, “Behold the Glories of the Lamb” and the people began to engage in the worship as he involved an emotional and theological influence in the worship. Isn’t that fascinating?

Today, “Joy to the World” is the most published Christmas song to date, but until we see the theological truths layered in the song I think we are missing out. Let’s look at Romans 8 to see where this song comes from.

Romans 8:18 For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory that is to be revealed to us.

In the context of the passage, verse tells us there is new life in Jesus, there is victory in Jesus, there is freedom from sin, life-changing transformation that is glorious, but in verse 18 it also says, “There is suffering.”

It means there are people all over the world who are enjoying friends and family, having fun, enjoying rest and seeing God do great things in their life, but there are also some people all over the world who are suffering.

How can we sing a song called “Joy to the World” when we are surrounded by suffering? Verse 18 speaks of “glory that is to be revealed.”

This is why the song says, “Joy to the world, let earth receive her king, let heaven and nature sing, let men their songs employ, while fields and floods, rocks, hills and plains, repeat the sounding joy.”

This song isn’t just about fuzzy, warm moments around the holidays. The song is about a baby that has come as king, lives a perfect life, takes all sin upon Himself, so that in Him, through faith, we are set free into the freedom of glory that will permeate every part of creation.

But how does the hope of His glory lead to joy? Imagine you are going to put two people in two rooms and give them identical tasks that are menial, boring, and difficult manual labor. You tell them both, “You are going to work 40-hours a week, for 12-months, and no vacations. It is going to be boring. It is going to be tedious, and it is going to be really hard.

To the first person you say, “At the end of the 12-months you will get an annual salary of $12,000.” To the second person you say, “At the end of the 12-months you will get an annual salary of $12 Million.”

The first person is going to go at it for about 3-4 weeks and say, “I quit. This is too hard. This is driving me crazy.” But, the other person is going to say, “Done! Not a problem, 12-months, are you kidding and whistling the whole day, every day, at work.” Why? The tedious trial is being overshadowed by the glory that is to be revealed.

God’s Word teaches us, “We might get to live on this planet for 80+ years, and while we are here we will encounter suffering. There are going to be hard days, but in verse 18 we see, “These hard days are nothing compared to the glory that is to be revealed.”

Where is your joy? Is it in romantic relationships that come and go? Is your joy in the economy that is up and down? Is your joy in how others perceive you? What torture!

God’s Word invites us to put our joy in Jesus. Jesus is the One who is full of power. Jesus is the One who has come to call you His. Jesus is the One who will return again to make all things new.

This is why Isaac Watts writes down the words, “Joy to the World.” It isn’t just what happens at the incarnation, it isn’t just the resurrection, it isn’t just the sanctification, but soon there is coming our glorification for the whole universe.

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