Why marriage is frustrating?

Sometimes in our marriages we get so frustrated, however, if you look in Genesis 2 we see that God didn’t intend for marriage to be frustrating. He created it us to be in a loving relationships with one another, intimate, fruits, naked, however, in Genesis 3 we see sin enter the equation and distort the relationship of marriage and it brings frustration.

Specifically for the husband when God created Adam He created Him to cultivate and care for the garden. He had a job, a responsibility, and it was a divine responsibility of stewardship, however, when sin enters into humanity it results in frustration. Look at Genesis 3:17:

17 Then to Adam He said, “Because you have listened to the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree about which I commanded you, saying, ‘You shall not eat from it’; Cursed is the ground because of you; in toil you will eat of it
all the days of your life. 18 “Both thorns and thistles it shall grow for you; And you will eat the plants of the field; 19 By the sweat of your face You will eat bread,
till you return to the ground, because from it you were taken; for you are dust,and to dust you shall return.”

Verse 17 starts off and sounds a little offensive, but who were Adam and Eve suppose to listen to? God. Yet, Eve listened to the serpent, and Adam listened to Eve and it resulted in disobedience. As verse 17 continues it explains that which was originally good has now become broken and distorted, and the land that was previously a blessing has now become difficult.

The land is no longer flourishing in growth, but now through sin there are droughts, and floods, unpredictable, and you have to work for every meal. There will be thorns, sweat, and it will be constantly difficult, frustrating, and working against us. Sometimes we don’t see this because we can just go to Jack In The Box, but even though we aren’t an agricultural economy any longer it is still difficult.

Scripture teaches us this is the result of sin in Genesis 3 and as a result we would live in a world of constant frustration. Which at first glance sounds really mean, but God allows this frustration so that we come to the end of ourselves, so that we don’t do it on our own, so that we do get frustrated, so that we see sin brings frustration, and instead of running toward sin we would run towards Jesus Christ.

Some of us are still stubborn. Instead of relenting and seeing the frustration we see it as a challenge, dig our heals in and convince ourselves we can make it work. We tell ourselves that we don’t need God and we will do it without Him. Some of us do that with our words and some of us do it with our heart, but the good news is that God didn’t leave us in the midst of that frustration and entered into our frustration in Jesus Christ. Without Jesus marriage is going to end in frustration every time.

2 thoughts on “Why marriage is frustrating?

  1. Kyle

    Great post! Very refreshing. With my wife in nursing school right now we’re constantly being stretched and this really helps. We quickly get wrapped up in how we can fix things or we’ll “go to Jack in the Box” and completely go against what God has called us to do.

  2. Michael Dennis Post author

    Kyle I agree it is easy to look within in the midst of being stretched but it helps to know that it is okay it is frustrating and instead of trying to fix the frustration and letting it be a reminder of my need for Jesus.


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